Stoner Sex: Sexual Orientation, Pill Popping & How to Be a Porn Star

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Dear Hyapatia,
I just got out of a relationship, and I have been having some homosexual thoughts lately. I have always had these thoughts, I guess. I am willing to face them now. Does that mean I am homosexual? All my significant relationships have been with members of the opposite sex. I am a lot older than most people are when they discover they are gay. What does that make me? — Chris

Dear Chris,
There really isn’t a fine line between gay and straight, it is more of a spectrum. So you would want to know where you fit on the spectrum, but that is difficult to say. We could all be classified one way at one point in our life and then, years later, be classified in another way. People change, and there is no way to be certain how you will feel in the future. I think the best approach would be to keep your mind open to relationships with both sexes and see what happens. Of course, there are people who are strictly gay or straight and would never have a relationship with someone who didn’t fit that sexual orientation, no matter how many years later in their life it was.

Dear Hyapatia,
Sometimes I like to do more than just smoke weed. I like to take some pills or drink alcohol or stuff like that. My boyfriend is against this, and so I have had to hide it from him in the past. Well, he found my stash of pills a few days ago and has been a little shit ever since. I don’t go crazy with them, only once in a while to enjoy a good weekend or something. How can I get him off my ass? — Jessica

Dear Jessica,
It could be that he is just worried about you and wants to make sure you are in control. Or it could be that he is fighting his own urge to do pills or drink or whatever and is afraid that he won’t be able to handle it, especially if his partner is doing it. Whatever it is, assure him that you are in control and can stop at any time. Show him that by letting this go. Then, hopefully he will feel like he doesn’t have to worry about you. Just make sure his fears are not based in truth. Then a month or two down the line, you can revisit the issue on your own in private if you feel that is best. 

Dear Hyapatia,
We don’t have sex very often, only once or twice a week. I would like to have sex more than that. How can I get my partner to be into that too? It seems she always has something to do and is tired when it is time to snuggle. — Peter

Dear Peter,
Most people have sex once or twice a week, so you are not alone. You are in good company. Life is busy, and it can be exhausting doing all of the things that need to be done. Good lovemaking doesn’t just happen, it is planned. If you plan some time for yourself, to get stoned, make-out and all that good stuff, you will find it easier. Sit down with your partner and make a schedule so that you both are on the same page and know what to expect. Don’t forget to spice things up with some nice candles, massage oils, sexy clothes and other things.

Dear Hyapatia,
I had this guy I was in love with. I still am, I guess, and he loves to watch porn. I really want him back.  I also have been thinking about getting into porno movies, and I thought that maybe you could help me. I am hoping he sees one of my movies or layouts and realizes just how good he had it. Can you help me? — Loni

Dear Loni,
Don’t get into the business just to get an old boyfriend back. If you are really interested for other reasons, there are several different agencies that book talent for movies and modeling. Things are very different now than they were back when I was in the business. Movies are done in one day or less, on a shoestring budget, and the scripts are often just a few sheets of paper. When I was making movies, they were a few hundred thousand dollars and took three to nine days to shoot. Layouts are fun, but they don’t pay well either. If you are still interested, look up talent agents in LA. Be prepared to take all kinds of tests for STDs before you start working with other people. If you are getting into the business just to get your boyfriend back though, I would think again. These things have a way of coming around years or decades later to bite people in the ass, and it might not work anyway. I have found that changing myself for others always backfires. Remember, in the end, we are all we have, and you must be at peace with yourself. Consider focusing on the future and letting go of the past.

Ask Hyapatia all of your questions regarding stoner sexuality. Email her at hya@hightimes.com
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